Question Number 8: High Expectations

Four seemingly harmless words are constantly falling out of people's mouths: "Give him a chance."

While they are seemingly harmless, I despise hearing them.  I want to scream to them and the rest of the world, "Why?! Why should I have to?"

My best friend counters their advice with words of her own, ones that she repeats to me when she knows I need to hear them.  She tells me, "You should never have to settle."  And I shoudn't, right? 

Right?

It's almost comical to think that somewhere, a beautiful girl sits in her room dreaming of a beautiful boy whom she loves with all her heart.  And somewhere, that very beautiful boy is dreaming about someone else-someone else that isn't her.  And in another room, there sits another boy who dreams of the beautiful girl-the same beautiful girl who dreams of the beautiful boy.

And the cycle continues.  I suppose the real question is, which one should 'give it a chance', essentially settling for what they do not truly want?  Should anyone have to settle?  Or is settling part of finding true love?

People tell me that my problem is that I have extremely high expectations.  I would have to agree.  I know who I like and I refuse to settle for anything else.  But I'm beginning to realize that maybe, just maybe, settling is essential in the ways of love.  Isn't it a fact that loving someone means loving their flaws as well?

When it comes to love, is having high exectations benificial or detrimental? 

Somewhere, there is the boy that I dream of.  But he dreams of someone else.
And somewhere else, there is another boy I know is dreaming of me.  Should I settle?  Should I unwillingly follow the advice that people have been pounding into me since boys first became a part of my life? 

I guess I'll never know.